{"id":90,"date":"2025-08-12T08:46:12","date_gmt":"2025-08-12T08:46:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/guruofthebeauty.com\/hot-talk\/10503-why-i-didnt-go-to-her-funeral-even-though-i-wanted-to\/"},"modified":"2025-08-12T08:46:12","modified_gmt":"2025-08-12T08:48:28","slug":"why-i-didnt-go-to-her-funeral-even-though-i-wanted-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/?p=90","title":{"rendered":"Why I Didn\u2019t Go to Her Funeral \u2014 Even Though I Wanted To"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>After asking online whether I should attend the funeral of Marcy \u2014 a girl I once played a role in getting addicted to drugs \u2014 I received overwhelming advice urging me not to go. I took that advice to my therapist and sponsor, who told me showing up could put my own sobriety at risk. When the day came, I felt torn between going to the funeral or relapsing\u2026 but instead, I grabbed my dog and drove to the beach. We spent the day together, and while I\u2019m still not okay, I<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-video\"><video controls src=\"https:\/\/guruofthebeauty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/fb1-1.mp4\"><\/video><\/figure>\n<p>A little while ago, I asked the internet a question I couldn\u2019t stop turning over in my mind: should I attend the funeral of Marcy, a girl I once played a part in getting addicted to drugs?<\/p>\n<p>The response was overwhelming \u2014 and it wasn\u2019t just online noise. I took that feedback to my therapist and my sponsor. My sponsor didn\u2019t sugarcoat it: going would put my sobriety in danger. I needed to grieve in a different way.<\/p>\n<div class=\"in_article\"><\/div>\n<p>When the day came, I was a wreck. I kept thinking about driving to the funeral\u2026 or worse, using again. Instead, I made a different choice. I grabbed my dog, got in the car, and drove to the beach. We spent the day there \u2014 just the two of us, the ocean, and the wind.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m still not okay, but I\u2019m okay enough. I haven\u2019t reached out to Marcy\u2019s family, and I won\u2019t. I understand now how devastating that would be for them.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, doing the right thing means staying away \u2014 even when every part of you wants to go.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Urged not to attend Marcy&#8217;s funeral, I skipped it to protect my sobriety, grieved at the beach with my dog, and chose not to contact her family.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":887,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[35],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-90","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-hot-talk"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/90","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=90"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/90\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/887"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=90"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=90"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/popbriefly.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=90"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}